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However, there are also many happy endings to arranged marriage. All we can say is that it was the fact of life at that time.
The second combing symbolizes: harmony from now till old age
The third combing symbolizes: sons and grandsons all over the place
The fourth combing summaries good wealth and a long-lasting marriage.
The whole action also symbolizes the adulthood of the couple. If either has been married before, then the combing event can be skipped for that person.
Wedding Day: picking up the Bride
On the day of the wedding, the groom will send a carriage over to the bride's family to bring the bride home. The carriage is decorated in red and is carried by four servants. Musicians will accompany the procession and they will play wedding music all the way. A lot of gifts are also brought to the bride's family at the same time.
At the bride's home, the bride will put on her bright red wedding gown and the bride's parents will give her jewelry to wear.
ride Leaving Home
Bride Arriving at the Groom's Home
After the bride arrive at the groom's house, the couple will again worship the ancestors and worship the heavens and earth. Then they will serve tea to the groom's family according the their seniority and the relatives will give them red packets or bridal jewelry in return.
The Wedding Banquet
To celebrate the marriage, the groom's family will throw a wedding feast as large as they can afford. In the old days, some villagers may use up to seven continuous days to entertain the relatives during a wedding. Every night, delicious food is being served to all the guests.
This is an annual event every September held at the Enyokeni Zulu Royal Palace which is located in KwaZulu-Natal in South Africa. Zulu virgins are brought here to get reeds from the nearby river and bring them to the Zulu king. Since polygamy is practiced here, the King is allowed to choose a new wife among the young girls. The rest who are not chosen are encouraged to maintain their status as virgins and come back the following until they are married. This is practice that isn’t just traditional but also used to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDs through awareness, self-dignity and women power.
Jumping the Broom
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This tradition is a ceremony participated by mixed couples like African-American couples. Long ago, Africans were treated as slaves and not allowed to mingle much more marry someone of different ethnic background and skin color. This is very old school and no longer practiced. One proof of equality among races is this tradition of literally jumping over a broom while drums are being played. It isn’t as simple as it sounds because some of these brooms used are dazzling with precious stones, ribbons, and elegant flowers.
Tying the Knot
As with other cultures, the men buy engagement rings for proposing marriage. And aside from the usual exchange of rings at the ceremony and placing of veil on the couple, African tradition requires that the couple have their hands tied together using a cloth or grass.
The 12 Symbols
The 12 symbols needed during an African wedding ceremony are wheat, wine, salt, pepper, water, bitter herbs, pot and spoon, shield, spear, honey, broom, and holy book whether it is the Bible or the Koran. These are the symbols of what to expect in a marriage and that both individuals are willing to face each the marital problems that will surely come and not decide to divorce because of the bumps in the marriage.
Libation Rites
Before the wedding takes place, the couples have to pray to their ancestors in a chant after which they must sprinkle some blessed alcohol or water on the ground.
Other traditions in a South African wedding are:
Dedication prayer after the exchange of vows with the lighting of one candle which is very similar to the Catholic tradition
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Karamu which is the reception after the wedding ceremony and also known as the wedding feast
Dowry payment in kind or in cash known as lobola.
The wearing of bright colors among guests; white for the bride, dark color for the groom, kente cummerbunds and bow ties for the men, and African shawls for the women
Wedding cake to symbolize fertility and children
A shoe tied to the back of the wedding car to symbolize a father passing responsibility for his daughter to the groom
Finally, the most poignant wedding tradition in South Africa is when the parents of the bride and groom carry fire from their fireplaces in their homes to the home of the newlyweds where together they light up the hearth.
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Tradition marriage with different culture
Wedding of America
American wedding is represented as white wedding , where bride wear white wedding dress,bridal may chose any dress which is light in color ,groom always strongly preferred to wear black in a wedding .
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Before marriage : While giving any gift to the newlywed couple is technically optional, nearly all invited guests who attend the wedding choose to do so. Wedding gifts are most commonly sent to the bride's or host's home before the wedding day.
During time of wedding :receptions is done where they served meal and drinks to the guests.
they celebrate the ceremony by cutting the cake as a wedding party .
Bride to toss her bouquet over her shoulder to the assembled unmarried women during the reception. The woman who catches it, superstition has it, will be the next to marry. In a similar process, her groom tosses the bride's garter to the unmarried men, followed by the man who caught the garter placing it on the leg of the woman who caught the bouquet.
The purpose of inviting guests is to have them witness a couple's marriage ceremony and vows and to share in their joy and celebration. Gifts for the wedding couple are optional, although most guests attempt to give at least a token gift of their best wishes.
The couple often registers for gifts at a store well in advance of their wedding. This allows them to create a list of household items, usually including china, silverware and crystalware, linens or other fabrics, pots and pans, etc. Registries are intended to aid guests in selecting gifts the newlyweds truly want, and the service is sufficiently profitable that most retailers, from luxury shops to discount stores, offer the opportunity.
In the ceremony bride and groom take promise to hold there hand always and they are to be a husband and wife .
Wedding in India
Hindu wedding is called vivaha sanskar they celebrate it as holy ceremonies .the process of hindu wedding is so long rituals and process are there to complete the weeding
Kanyadaan,Panigrahana, and Saptapadi, which are respectively, giving away of daughter by the father, voluntarily holding hand near the fire to signify union, and taking seven steps with each step includes a vow/promise to each other before fire,The primary witness of a Hindu marriage is the fire-deity,and then family and friend with relatives .
. This ritual is where the Baraat (groom's procession party) arrives at the bride's home or the location where the bride is and marriage will be celebrated. The Baraat typically includes dancing and joyous members of groom's family, relatives and friends. On their arrival, there is a ritual where key persons from the groom's side and bride's side are introduced to each other. The introduction is typically followed by Jai mala (garland exchange between bride and groom) and a reception that serves food and drinks
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Bride's vow: Yes, whatever food you earn with hard work, I will safeguard it, prepare it to nourish you. I promise to respect your wishes, and nourish your friends and family as well.
step 2 :
Groom's vow: O!, thoughtful and beautiful lady, with a well managed home, with purity of behavior and thought, you will enable us to be strong, energetic and happy. O! beautiful lady, I, as Vishnu, take this second step with you for the strength of body, character and being.
Bride's vow: Yes, I will manage the home according to my ability and reason. Together, I promise, to keep a home that is healthy, strength and energy giving.
step 3 :
Groom's vow: O!, skillful and beautiful lady, I promise to devote myself to earning a livelihood by fair means, to discuss, and let you manage and preserve our wealth. O! dear lady, I, as Vishnu form, cover this third step with you to thus prosper in our wealth.
Bride's vow: Yes, I join you in managing our income and expenses. I promise to seek your consent, as I manage our wealth, fairly earned, so it grows and sustains our family.
Step 4:
Groom's vow: O!, dear lady, I promise to trust your decisions about the household and your choices; I promise to dedicate myself to help our community prosper, the matters outside the house. This shall bring us respect. O! my lady, I, as Vishnu, take this fourth step with you to participate in our world.
Bride's vow: Yes, I promise to strive to make the best home for us, anticipate and provide necessary things for your worldly life, and for the happiness of our family.
Step 5:
Groom's vow: O!, lady of skill and pure thoughts, I promise to consult with you and engage you in the keep of our cows, our agriculture and our source of income; I promise to contribute to our country. It shall win us future. O! my skilled lady, I, as Vishnu form, take this fifth step with you to together grow our farms and cattle.
Bride's vow: Yes, I promise to participate and protect the cattle, our agriculture and business. They are a source of yoghurt, milk, ghee and income, all useful for our family, necessary for our happiness.
Step 6:
Groom's vow: O!, lovely lady, I seek you and only you, to love, to have children, to raise a family, to experience all the seasons of life. O! my lovely lady, I, as Vishnu, take this sixth step with you to experience every season of life.
Bride's vow: Feeling one with you, with your consent, I will be the means of your enjoyment of all the senses. Through life's seasons, I will cherish you in my heart. I will worship you and seek to complete you.
Step 7:
Groom's vow: O friends!, allow us to cover the seventh step together, this promise, our Saptapad-friendship. Please be my constant wife.
Bride's vow: Yes, today, I gained you, I secured the highest kind of friendship with you. I will remember the vows we just took and adore you forever sincerely with all my heart.
Seven step of marriage :
no Hindu marriage is binding and complete unless the ritual of seven steps and vows in presence of fire (Saptapadi) is completed by the bride and the groom together.
The pre-wedding and post-wedding rituals and celebrations vary by region, preferences or the resources of the groom, bride and their families. They can range from one day to multi-day events. Pre-wedding ceremonies include engagement .no Hindu marriage is binding and complete unless the ritual of seven steps and vows in presence of fire (Saptapadi) is completed by the bride and the groom together.
Hindu marriage where groom come to the place where bride and varmala process and then they move for the next step of marriage where they do seven step by promising each other .
Step 1 :
Groom's vow: O!, you who feeds life-sustaining food, nourish my visitors, friends, parents and offsprings with food and drinks. O! beautiful lady, I, as a form of Vishnu, take this first step with you for food.Bride's vow: Yes, whatever food you earn with hard work, I will safeguard it, prepare it to nourish you. I promise to respect your wishes, and nourish your friends and family as well.
step 2 :
Groom's vow: O!, thoughtful and beautiful lady, with a well managed home, with purity of behavior and thought, you will enable us to be strong, energetic and happy. O! beautiful lady, I, as Vishnu, take this second step with you for the strength of body, character and being.
Bride's vow: Yes, I will manage the home according to my ability and reason. Together, I promise, to keep a home that is healthy, strength and energy giving.
step 3 :
Groom's vow: O!, skillful and beautiful lady, I promise to devote myself to earning a livelihood by fair means, to discuss, and let you manage and preserve our wealth. O! dear lady, I, as Vishnu form, cover this third step with you to thus prosper in our wealth.
Bride's vow: Yes, I join you in managing our income and expenses. I promise to seek your consent, as I manage our wealth, fairly earned, so it grows and sustains our family.
Step 4:
Groom's vow: O!, dear lady, I promise to trust your decisions about the household and your choices; I promise to dedicate myself to help our community prosper, the matters outside the house. This shall bring us respect. O! my lady, I, as Vishnu, take this fourth step with you to participate in our world.
Bride's vow: Yes, I promise to strive to make the best home for us, anticipate and provide necessary things for your worldly life, and for the happiness of our family.
Step 5:
Groom's vow: O!, lady of skill and pure thoughts, I promise to consult with you and engage you in the keep of our cows, our agriculture and our source of income; I promise to contribute to our country. It shall win us future. O! my skilled lady, I, as Vishnu form, take this fifth step with you to together grow our farms and cattle.
Bride's vow: Yes, I promise to participate and protect the cattle, our agriculture and business. They are a source of yoghurt, milk, ghee and income, all useful for our family, necessary for our happiness.
Step 6:
Groom's vow: O!, lovely lady, I seek you and only you, to love, to have children, to raise a family, to experience all the seasons of life. O! my lovely lady, I, as Vishnu, take this sixth step with you to experience every season of life.
Bride's vow: Feeling one with you, with your consent, I will be the means of your enjoyment of all the senses. Through life's seasons, I will cherish you in my heart. I will worship you and seek to complete you.
Step 7:
Groom's vow: O friends!, allow us to cover the seventh step together, this promise, our Saptapad-friendship. Please be my constant wife.
Bride's vow: Yes, today, I gained you, I secured the highest kind of friendship with you. I will remember the vows we just took and adore you forever sincerely with all my heart.
After this step of promises they become husband and wife .
rice or other grains, such as Chortaan Ka Tel, Vaaynoovi, Dholi, Sai Kai. In these ceremonies, rice is thrown at the bride, groom or they kick a container containing the grain.
and veedai rasum is done where bride have to leave her parents house and move to his husband house for always .
There are some circumstances where the marriage has been arranged when both the bride and the groom were very young or not even born. In the former case, a young girl may be bought by the rich family as a servant girl to serve the rich boy. When the boy grew up, she may become either his wife or one of his concubines. In the latter case, two pregnant mothers will make the promise that when the babies are born, if they were both boys or both girls, they would become brothers or sisters and if one baby was a boy and the other a girl, they would get married. Hence the saying: pointing to the bosom as a marriage promise. However, a lot of times when the boy grew up, his family may have fallen from prestige and sometimes the girl's family may refuse to let them get married. There are numerous folktales about tragedies that stem from arranged marriage. rice or other grains, such as Chortaan Ka Tel, Vaaynoovi, Dholi, Sai Kai. In these ceremonies, rice is thrown at the bride, groom or they kick a container containing the grain.
and veedai rasum is done where bride have to leave her parents house and move to his husband house for always .
Wedding of china
Traditional Chinese marriage ceremonial ritual within Chinese societies that involve a marriage established by pre-arrangement between families. Within Chinese culture, romantic love was allowed, and monogamy was the norm for most ordinary citizens.
Three Letters
In the old days, all communication was through formal letters. Therefore, the letters play an important role in the events.
Request Letter
This letter confirms the formal arrangement of a marriage. It is sent by the groom's family to the bride's family. This letter is normally presented with the initial gifts for the bride's family.
Gift Letter
This letter accompanies the formal gifts for the Bride's family. It is actually a gift list that records the description and quantity of the gifts.
Wedding Letter
This letter is presented to the bride's family on th day of the wedding. It confirms the act of bringing the bride into the groom's family.
The Chinese word for etiquette can mean both customs and gifts. The following customs are known as the Six Etiquette
After obtaining the 'Eight Letters' of the groom and potential bride, a fortune telling master will be hired to determine whether the two match each other. If there is nothing wrong with the bride's birthdate, the groom's family will proceed to the next step. Otherwise, there will be no further contact between the families and the groom's family may look for another suitable bride.
Initial Gifts for the Bride's Family
If the potential bride's birthdate is acceptable, the groom's family will request the spokeswoman to send some initial gifts accompanied by the gift letter.
Formal Gifts for the Bride's Family
The groom's family will pick a 'good day' and send the bride's family the following bridal gifts: gifts, cash, cakes and food and sacrifices for worshiping the ancestors. This act confirms the marriage agreement between the two families.
Select the Wedding Date
The fortune telling master will select a 'good day' according the the bride and groom's and their family's birthdates.
Wedding Day
On the big day, both the bride and the groom's house will be decorated in red. The groom's family will send out a procession of servants, musicians and a carriage which is carried by four servants to the bride's family to bring the bride back. The bride will then be brought back to the groom's house and the two will perform the marriage cermony witnessed by all the relatives and friends.
The bride and groom will worship the heavens and the earth, the groom's ancestors and they will also serve tea to all of their superiors in the family. After that, the superiors will give them red packages (lai see) with monetary gifts and wish them well. The groom's family will then throw a huge feast (if they can afford it) for the friends and relatives to celebrate the wedding. All along, the spokeswoman will oversee the whole process and keep toasting the couple.The night before the wedding, both the bride and the groom needs to find a 'good fortune' woman and man to comb their hair in his/her home respectively. Both the bride and the groom needs to take shower before the event, change to some fresh new underwear and incense needs to be burnt. The bride also needs to sit next to a window where the moon can be seen. Their hair needs to be combed four times and each has a special meaning:
The first combing symbolizes: from beginning till the endIn the old days, all communication was through formal letters. Therefore, the letters play an important role in the events.
Request Letter
This letter confirms the formal arrangement of a marriage. It is sent by the groom's family to the bride's family. This letter is normally presented with the initial gifts for the bride's family.
Gift Letter
This letter accompanies the formal gifts for the Bride's family. It is actually a gift list that records the description and quantity of the gifts.
Wedding Letter
This letter is presented to the bride's family on th day of the wedding. It confirms the act of bringing the bride into the groom's family.
The Chinese word for etiquette can mean both customs and gifts. The following customs are known as the Six Etiquette
After obtaining the 'Eight Letters' of the groom and potential bride, a fortune telling master will be hired to determine whether the two match each other. If there is nothing wrong with the bride's birthdate, the groom's family will proceed to the next step. Otherwise, there will be no further contact between the families and the groom's family may look for another suitable bride.
Initial Gifts for the Bride's Family
If the potential bride's birthdate is acceptable, the groom's family will request the spokeswoman to send some initial gifts accompanied by the gift letter.
Formal Gifts for the Bride's Family
The groom's family will pick a 'good day' and send the bride's family the following bridal gifts: gifts, cash, cakes and food and sacrifices for worshiping the ancestors. This act confirms the marriage agreement between the two families.
Select the Wedding Date
The fortune telling master will select a 'good day' according the the bride and groom's and their family's birthdates.
Wedding Day
On the big day, both the bride and the groom's house will be decorated in red. The groom's family will send out a procession of servants, musicians and a carriage which is carried by four servants to the bride's family to bring the bride back. The bride will then be brought back to the groom's house and the two will perform the marriage cermony witnessed by all the relatives and friends.
The bride and groom will worship the heavens and the earth, the groom's ancestors and they will also serve tea to all of their superiors in the family. After that, the superiors will give them red packages (lai see) with monetary gifts and wish them well. The groom's family will then throw a huge feast (if they can afford it) for the friends and relatives to celebrate the wedding. All along, the spokeswoman will oversee the whole process and keep toasting the couple.The night before the wedding, both the bride and the groom needs to find a 'good fortune' woman and man to comb their hair in his/her home respectively. Both the bride and the groom needs to take shower before the event, change to some fresh new underwear and incense needs to be burnt. The bride also needs to sit next to a window where the moon can be seen. Their hair needs to be combed four times and each has a special meaning:
The second combing symbolizes: harmony from now till old age
The third combing symbolizes: sons and grandsons all over the place
The fourth combing summaries good wealth and a long-lasting marriage.
The whole action also symbolizes the adulthood of the couple. If either has been married before, then the combing event can be skipped for that person.
Wedding Day: picking up the Bride
On the day of the wedding, the groom will send a carriage over to the bride's family to bring the bride home. The carriage is decorated in red and is carried by four servants. Musicians will accompany the procession and they will play wedding music all the way. A lot of gifts are also brought to the bride's family at the same time.
At the bride's home, the bride will put on her bright red wedding gown and the bride's parents will give her jewelry to wear.
ride Leaving Home
Bride Arriving at the Groom's Home
After the bride arrive at the groom's house, the couple will again worship the ancestors and worship the heavens and earth. Then they will serve tea to the groom's family according the their seniority and the relatives will give them red packets or bridal jewelry in return.
The Wedding Banquet
To celebrate the marriage, the groom's family will throw a wedding feast as large as they can afford. In the old days, some villagers may use up to seven continuous days to entertain the relatives during a wedding. Every night, delicious food is being served to all the guests.
wedding in south africa
The Reed Dance FestivalThis is an annual event every September held at the Enyokeni Zulu Royal Palace which is located in KwaZulu-Natal in South Africa. Zulu virgins are brought here to get reeds from the nearby river and bring them to the Zulu king. Since polygamy is practiced here, the King is allowed to choose a new wife among the young girls. The rest who are not chosen are encouraged to maintain their status as virgins and come back the following until they are married. This is practice that isn’t just traditional but also used to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDs through awareness, self-dignity and women power.
Jumping the Broom
This tradition is a ceremony participated by mixed couples like African-American couples. Long ago, Africans were treated as slaves and not allowed to mingle much more marry someone of different ethnic background and skin color. This is very old school and no longer practiced. One proof of equality among races is this tradition of literally jumping over a broom while drums are being played. It isn’t as simple as it sounds because some of these brooms used are dazzling with precious stones, ribbons, and elegant flowers.
Tying the Knot
As with other cultures, the men buy engagement rings for proposing marriage. And aside from the usual exchange of rings at the ceremony and placing of veil on the couple, African tradition requires that the couple have their hands tied together using a cloth or grass.
The 12 Symbols
The 12 symbols needed during an African wedding ceremony are wheat, wine, salt, pepper, water, bitter herbs, pot and spoon, shield, spear, honey, broom, and holy book whether it is the Bible or the Koran. These are the symbols of what to expect in a marriage and that both individuals are willing to face each the marital problems that will surely come and not decide to divorce because of the bumps in the marriage.
Libation Rites
Before the wedding takes place, the couples have to pray to their ancestors in a chant after which they must sprinkle some blessed alcohol or water on the ground.
Other traditions in a South African wedding are:
Dedication prayer after the exchange of vows with the lighting of one candle which is very similar to the Catholic tradition
Karamu which is the reception after the wedding ceremony and also known as the wedding feast
Dowry payment in kind or in cash known as lobola.
The wearing of bright colors among guests; white for the bride, dark color for the groom, kente cummerbunds and bow ties for the men, and African shawls for the women
Wedding cake to symbolize fertility and children
A shoe tied to the back of the wedding car to symbolize a father passing responsibility for his daughter to the groom
Finally, the most poignant wedding tradition in South Africa is when the parents of the bride and groom carry fire from their fireplaces in their homes to the home of the newlyweds where together they light up the hearth.
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